![]() ![]() They will eventually learn our unspoken social rules. But let’s not teach them they need to quiet their feelings for others. Oftentimes people struggle most with allowing children to express their feelings in public, thinking that it is not an appropriate setting and worrying about other’s reactions or judgement. If we want our children to learn how to regulate their emotions, and to trust us with their problems and feelings, then we cannot be dismissive of them when they try to do this!Ĭrying is always appropriate. Whatever your child is upset about is valid. It might seem trivial to you, but a child does not have an adult perspective on the world. By telling them to ‘stop crying’ we send the message that their feelings are not important, not valid, silly, and annoying. It’s a very healthy and necessary way for children to express their feelings, and we don’t need to make them stop. If they don’t get it, they’ll keep trying.Ĭrying is ok. Children are looking for empathy and understanding. If you don’t hear the message they are trying to send you, the messenger just gets louder and louder until you do. You very rarely succeed at making them stop anyway, and it’s more likely that they will need more support from you in the future rather than less. ![]() “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!”īut what if I told you that every time you dismiss or minimise your child’s feelings, you actually make your job harder. We’ve all said it, or at least thought it. Right? And sometimes, it can all get to be just a little bit much! When you’ve had what seems like hours of multiple people crying at you, the temptation to make it stop is high! Parenting 10 Things to Say Instead of ‘Stop Crying’Īs a parent, you deal with a LOT of feelings on a daily basis.
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